Mary Louise Eliason, resident of Clarion for nearly 70 years, died on November
21, 2019 in Moraga, California, where she had lived for the last 11 months. She
was 90 years old.
Memorial services will be held on Saturday, January 25, 2020 at 11:00 AM at the
United Church of Christ Congregational, 121 Third Avenue Northwest, in Clarion,
with Pastor Bill Kem officiating.
Visitation will be held Friday, January 24, 2020 from 4:00 PM to 6:00 PM at
Ewing Funeral Home, 1801 Central Avenue East in Clarion, and will continue one
hour prior to services at the church on Saturday.
Mary was born on March 4, 1929, in Hampton Iowa, the second of three children
born to Oscar and Ruth Holmes, a young farm family with a grain and livestock
operation southeast of Rowan, Iowa.
Mary Holmes grew up during the Great Depression, which severely affected the
farming community nationwide. Her parents, hard-working first generation
immigrants from Sweden and England/Wales, struggled but made a good home for
their family. Her father built a large brick house and stately brick barns,
out-buildings, and livestock yards. Many meals were prepared with fresh fruits
and vegetables from the orchards and large garden on the acreage.
Mary received her primary and secondary education in the one-room country school
house only a short distance from the Holmes farm. From there she attended Rowan
High School and graduated in 1947. Growing up on the farm, Mary read books,
listened to the radio, attended movies at the Dows and Clarion theaters, played
games with her brothers, and became a lover of cats, always keeping a colorful
array of strays as pets.
She longed for an urban experience and chose to attend Drake University in Des
Moines during the post-WWII late 1940's and early 1950's. She loved the people
and academic life but vividly remembered how, in biology class, each student was
required to participate in the dissection of a cat cadaver! Needless to say,
Mary did not thereafter choose science as her life's endeavor.
After Drake she entered the working world in Clarion. She worked at the county
assessor's office located in the basement of the Post Office. The Korean War was
ongoing and the U.S. military draft was still taking men into service. A young
draftee, Bill Eliason, from a farm near Kanawha, was sitting with other draftees
on the hallway floor when he saw Mary walk by. He flirted with her but thought
he'd never see her again, as he was heading off to serve his required time. Two
years later, after returning to farm with his dad, he was at the Clarion Bowling
Alley one night with friends. Lo and behold, there was Mary! He struck up a
conversation, scheduled a date and several years later, in April, 1958, they
were married at the Clarion Congregational Church. Following the service, they
embarked on their honeymoon in New York City, visiting Niagara Falls on the way.
In NYC, they got a full serving of city life, staying in Midtown, taking taxis,
going to the theater, and enjoying dinner in fine urban style. They both loved
it, but Bill confessed later he snuck off to Queens one afternoon to attend a
car show halfway through!
Bill farmed at his home acreage near Kanawha, and had a farm home picked out
where the newlyweds would build a family. But Mary insisted on something few
farm families did back then, or even now. She insisted they live in Clarion and
not on the farm. Being a very social person, she wanted to be around people and
walk to the grocery store, post office, a coffee shop, or restaurant. She wanted
her kids to be able to walk to school. And she did not want to feel isolated.
Bill agreed, and they started living at The Middleton Apartments in the
northeast section. They moved three times before finally settling at their
longtime home on 1st Avenue NE, a block from downtown, and three blocks from the
elementary school.
Mary and Bill had identical twin boys, Tim and Jeff, in January, 1960. While the
kids grew up, Mary worked at various positions including the Methodist Church
and later was a librarian at the Clarion Library, a fulfilling job given her
love of literature. She satisfied her spirit of adventure by taking community
college classes in French and literature, attending plays or musicals in Ames or
Des Moines, and by spearheading family trips to points far and wide. Always via
automobile, the trips enabled the family to see and experience the country. They
involved excursions to Colorado, Kansas City, Washington DC, Boston, Florida,
Michigan, and Jackson Hole. Many fond memories resulted from those travel
experiences, as well as the family's expanded perspective about history,
geography and culture. Mary and Bill were also members of the Clarion Country
Club for many years, enjoying playing golf and attending Club parties.
Jeff and Tim graduated from Clarion High School and went on to the University of
Iowa. Mary and Bill spent many weekends visiting and going to Iowa football
games, solidifying their love of the Hawkeyes. After college and grad school,
the kids settled in the San Francisco Bay Area, which Mary and Bill visited
regularly over the years, enjoying California and the company of their four
grandchildren, Gaby, Nick, Maddie, and Ethan. In 1998, after their 40th wedding
anniversary, Mary and Bill traveled to Europe, primarily visiting England and
Germany, an experience they truly relished.
Ten years after Bill's 2004 passing, Mary sold the 1st Avenue house and moved to
The Meadows, where she resided among many friends and acquaintances. In 2018,
she moved, at 89 years old, to Moraga, California, to be near her sons and their
families. There she was visited frequently by her sons, daughters in law, Mary
(Jeff) and Beth (Tim), and her four grandchildren, now in their twenties.
Mary lived a simple but fulfilling life. She dearly loved Iowa, its people,
lifestyle and seasons. But she also had the opportunity to see a little bit of
the world outside her homeland. Mary had a very distinct personality and
fashionable style. She was openly expressive of her opinions and not afraid to
stand out from the crowd. She savored her 46 years with Bill, raising her kids,
and spending time with her immediate and extended family. She greatly cherished
as well the many friends she had in Clarion and beyond.
Mary made a lasting impression on everyone she met. And she will be fondly
remembered and missed.